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PLAYER 1

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PLAYER 2

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DE-ESCALATE!

1. This is a two-player cooperative challenge to communicate to and understand your partner better by working through an issue of your choice. The rules are:

2.1 Identify the complaint, not the criticism, by formulating your "I" statement. Elaborate as necessary, using feeling words and avoiding the word "you", "always", and "never". Consider and include assertions of individual responsibility, self-disclosure, and empathy.

"I feel/felt when/because ."

2.2 Define your emotional needs.

"I need when ."

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3.1 Acknowledge your partner by repeating their "I" statement.

"I understand that you feel/felt when ."

3.2 Consider and assert your responsibility, and explain your intentions/perspective. Include self-disclosure, use feeling words, and avoid using the word "you", "always", and "never".

"I know I , but I don't mean to make you feel . It happened because ."

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4. Acknowledge their intentions, consider your role in your emotions, recognize any misunderstandings, and reevaluate your feelings based on the new information given.

"I understand that you . Now that I know you , I feel ."

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5. Address the complaint and propose a solution

"I understand that you feel and need . What if I/we ."

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6. Evaluate the solution, consider your needs honestly, and if necessary, renegotiate based on your needs.

"That's a good idea because it addresses my needs by . I would also appreciate if we/you could because it would make me feel ."

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7. Repeat steps 5-6 until a solution is reached and both parties are satisfied.

"I understand that you feel and need . What if I/we ."

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Let go of your pride, or feelings of being wronged, and consider your partner's pain. What can you both do to heal each other's pain and protect your relationship?

"What if we..."
"I know this is hard..."
"I hear what you're saying..."
"What do you think about..."

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Great job completing the challenge. Be sure to review the transcript, note any markings, and discuss ways to further improve your communication. To save this transcript for future reference, go to file > save page as > webpage, complete.